Friday, June 01, 2007

Freebirthers

The Following is an article my Mom found on MSNBC.com. I was horrified when I read it. I like to do things as naturally as possible, I have been called an Earth Momma. I was delivered by my father (the mid wife didn't make it in time to catch but was there very shortly after) at home and when I found out I was pregnant I strongly considered having that same midwife deliver James at our home. I opted not to because it was my first pregnancy. The Dr. I chose was a mid wife for about 20 years before becoming a OBGYN. So in the end I still had a very comfortable, (by comfortable I mean the setting, not the labor :) natural experience. Pregnancy is not a sickness but it is medical. There is a reason that the survival rate of mothers and babies is much higher today that in the past. I feel that these women are seriously risking the lives of their babies as well as their own. Life is too precious to be so careless. What do you think?

LONDON - They insist they’re no superwomen, they have no special powers, and are certainly not pain or adrenaline junkies.
But ‘freebirthers’ choose to go through what some call the most painful and potentially frightening experience of a woman’s life with no drugs, no midwife and no medical help.
Delivering their own babies at home, often alone, they dismiss what they say is “fearmongering” by doctors and midwives and confidently catch their offspring as they leave the womb.“Birthing uses the same hormones as lovemaking — so why would you want anyone poking and prodding you, observing you and putting you under a spotlight?,” said Veronika Robinson, an Australian based in Britain who sees growing interest in freebirth among readers of the international magazine, “The Mother.”
Her comment is echoed by many in online discussion groups about freebirth, where women insist having a baby is as intimate an experience as having sex.
“We were the only people there when she was conceived, and it felt absolutely 100 percent right that we were the only people there when she was born,” writes Laura Fields from the United States.
Robinson says medical establishments in Britain and across other westernized nations have for years been “taking something that’s natural and making it into a disease,” and now, with freebirthing, “women are taking their power back.”
Free- or unassisted birth means having a baby with no medical or professional help. In Britain, as in North America, where its popularity is growing, it is legal as long as delivery is not “assisted” by an unqualified partner, friend or husband.
To some, like new mum Janet Sears, the idea of giving birth alone, with no one around to help if things go wrong, is little short of madness: “It’s my idea of hell,” she told Reuters.

Intervention and fear
But one of its most prominent supporters, Laura Shanley, an author on childbirth, is now mother to four children — all of whom were born at home without the help of doctors or midwives.
Shanley, who lives in Colorado in the United States, says that, in essence, birth is only problematic because of three main factors — poverty, intervention and fear.
As long as clean water and reasonable living standards are available — as they are to many women in the west — then the task is to eliminate the other two factors and a natural birth will be as safe as it can be.
“As I began to understand how fear affects the body, and that birth is not inherently dangerous provided we don’t trigger the fight-flight response and shut down labor, then to me it was natural to want to just trust myself,” she told Reuters.
“It didn’t make sense to me that something that ensures the continuation of the race would be a dangerous and scary event.”Diana Drescher, a Dutch freebirthing enthusiast who lives in Britain and wants a fourth baby with her German partner, agrees.
“We’ve been giving birth for thousands of years and we’re still in this world. If it was that dangerous we wouldn’t be here,” she told Reuters.
Coming from the Netherlands, where there is a more relaxed attitude to birth, Diana finds British medical authorities far too quick to intervene and is determined to have her next baby here with no professional presence.
She says she will also avoid being in her partner’s native Germany where she says freebirth is virtually impossible without fear of the authorities finding out and intervening.
“I do know some people who have had unassisted births in Germany, but they will not talk about it. It’s a very close community that does it and they have to be very careful.”Britain’s Department of Health frowns on the practice of freebirthing and says every woman should have a midwife.
“The safety of mothers and their babies is our top priority,” a spokesman told Reuters. “Midwives are the experts in normal pregnancy and birth and have the skills to refer to and coordinate between specialist services. Every woman needs the care of a midwife in labor and birth and those women with more complex pregnancies may need a doctor too.”

'The most dangerous thing'
And some doctors, as well as some friends and relatives of those who chose to go it alone when they go into labor, are fiercely critical of what they see as a selfish, reckless, even irresponsible approach to childbirth.Dr Crippen, a British National Health Service doctor who writes an award-winning blog on the Internet, has reacted angrily to growing interest in freebirth, saying babies born this way should have a right to legal recourse later in life.
He says “giving birth is the most dangerous thing that most woman will do during their life,” and argues:
Does a mother not owe a duty of care to her baby? Should a mother not take reasonable care to protect the baby when she gives birth? And if she does not take reasonable care — and the standard should be objective not subjective — why should a baby who has sustained avoidable brain damage due to the mother’s negligence not take action against his mother?”
If a baby were to die during a freebirth, Dr Crippen argues the mother should be prosecuted for manslaughter.
Mary Siever, a mother of three who lives in Alberta, Canada, said she has experienced the wrath of those around her when they learned she had a baby on her own.
“There are people who are horrified when they find out that an unassisted birth has taken place,” she told Reuters.
“I can’t claim to know why they feel this way, but my belief is that the majority of them — doctors and health authorities — truly do not think women are intellectually capable of making their own decisions when it comes to birth.”
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Friday, May 25, 2007

Nearing Toddlehood

James is creating all sorts of mayhem these days. A week or so ago I had to tape the door shut on the butchers block (this is where I store all of our stemware) to keep curious, chubby hands away. Last night I was in another room and I heard a series of mysterious thuds coming from the kitchen where James was toddering in his walker. When I went to see what the fuss was I found that James had discovered the makeshift pantry shelf and was unloading the boxes of cake and muffin mixes onto the floor. Normally I might not have found this to be suitable entertainment for the little ragamuffin but it just seemed like the thing to do. I mean the shelf will only be there maybe a week more so how much of a mess can he make?
He now has 6 teeth and the 7th is cutting through. He had a ruff month what with getting 4 teeth in four weeks. This one he's working on now doesn't seem to bother him much.
He's also been working hard on waving and saying Bye-Bye. Most times he waves bye-bye now even on command. A couple of days ago he was sitting on the floor and I had just turned on the Today Show and as I walked by him I noticed he was waving at someone so I looked a the tv and they were out on the Plaza and all the people were waving at the camera, so James decided it would only be right to wave back. He's very random at saying it though, he'll only say it when he sees fit.
He's still not crawling. He's just too content. He loves his walker and sometimes it seems like he may just skip crawling and walk first. Its hard to say. He is getting up on his hand and tucking one knee under himself so maybe he will crawl yet. Mom says that I'm too pushy and he'll do it on his own time, which I am sure she is right, as she most generally is. I ask myself why I want him to anyways? He's already getting into everything and following me every where I go, why would I want to make him even more mobile?
"Give it, I'm gonna get it, I am, I am!"
"Cameras look so fun"
"I'm such a big ol' brute I'm gonna be built just like my Uncle A."
"Gonna, heck, I already look like him"
"Momma just loves my new smile. She loves my squinty VanHofwegen/Rozeboom eyes"
"If Momma would make me some cake I wouldn't have to eat the box."
"I'm not naughty, who said I was naughty?"

Thursday, May 24, 2007

Crawdad Days 2007

This past Saturday was Harrison's annual festival "Crawdad Days". Tim and I live only about 8 or 10 blocks from the square and town park so we loaded James into his stroller and trotted down to participate in the fun. Festivals like these are part of the reason I love small towns so much. I love being so close that we can walk. In July they also have a large fireworks display over the lake in the park. Its the reason to live in a small town. You see all of your neighbors and colleagues and everyone has a smile for you.
Here are a few of the sights from the festival:

Its kind of scary that most of the crawdads in this picture are merely shells.

Yum, I kind of wish we had tried some.
The festival mascot.
This is the crawdad eating contest. The man in this picture is last years winner, he ate 21 lbs. of crawdads in the '06 contest.
James found the whole affair very hot, but he did get a balloon tied to his hand and that was worth it.
"Horsies are fun but Momma says I can't have one, she says I have to talk to Uncle A."

Wednesday, May 16, 2007

Sweet Home ....



" 'Ya Don't Gotta Be From Down Here to Get Along Just Fine, Being Southern is a State of Mind"

Some of these old rock songs have some wisdom in them.

Mother's Day

My first Mother's Day as a Mother


This past Sunday was my first Mother's day as a Mother. It was awesome. So often I find myself saying "I love being a Mom", and I do. It didn't feel right having the day be somewhat my day though. Its still Mom's day. I mean isn't that only right though? She's been doing this for 27 years and I've only been at it about 8 1/2 months. I think she needs the day more than I do, we know she's a great Mom, but me, well, time will tell I suppose.


For some reason the men folk decided the a pic of rolling heads on a pole was ok

"Momma, Momma, No more kisses, I can't take it any more"
"Hi Grandpa"
"Ooooh...a garden, can I walk barefoot in the dirt?"
"Bye, Bye"

Saturday, May 12, 2007

Boo Boo

James had his first boo boo this week. On Mon. I was painting in the hall way and James was zooming around in his walker. He decided that it might be fun to ram the 6 ft folding wood ladder that I had sitting nearby. So he got a run for it and rammed the bottom of the the ladder. It came toppling over landing squarely on his head before I could grab him. Poor little tiger didn't know what hit him, but he was a real trooper. After the initial scare and pain he was smiling again within a minute. If you look closely on on the picture you can see some of the makings just above his right eye just about in his hairline. He came out pretty much unscathed bearing a new found knowledge of gravity.

Tuesday, May 01, 2007

Here and Now

My Aunt Wanda had this picture shellacked on a wood plaque hanging across from the toilet in her bathroom as long as I can remember. Aunt Wanda passed away 12 years ago this coming September. I never appreciated this cartoon until the past couple of years. I always thought it was just a silly cartoon hanging in my Aunt's bathroom. To be honest I never really thought about it that much at all. But as I grow older and think more about what my Aunt and Ziggy had to say I realize what good advice it is. Its not profound, but somehow we still manage to forget this simple concept.
I think about my Aunt a lot now. I was only 9 when she died. I think about all of the things that made her so very unique. I probably think about her even more because people say I am like her. I wish my husband and son could have met her. People say that often you appreciate people more after they pass away and while I do agree with this to extent because so often in life we take the things nearest to us for granted, I don't necessarily agree in this case. Its just that now that I am older I see the little things that made her unique in a new light. She was my favorite Aunt then and if she were here I believe she'd be my favorite Aunt today.